If you're one of those women like me, who love their kids sooooo much, but let's face it, are completely ready for the return of school routine and some peace and quiet - then read on..
Because now that the little angels are back into the classroom or into day care or kindy, what will we do?
Do we go back to work? Do we continue working? Do we get to that mammoth pile of personal admin that went to the way-side during the holidays? Or perhaps the cleaning and mountainous job of sorting through washing and clothes that they've grown out of?
Whatever we choose to do, OFTEN we choose to do 'stuff', to do things that 'need to be done' (and they very well may) but how often do we choose to STOP for a moment. And breathe. Just breathe. Reflect. Then, find ourselves again.
Because wow - what has just happened?!? The 6-8 week whirlwind of kid craziness has just stopped, like a tornado losing all its momentum!! I feel as though the summer holidays ride is one I have to hang on to like crazyyyy. One minute they're playing like best mates and the next its "such and such did such and such to me" or "Im hungryyyyyyyy" (that last one multiply by 5000). I get to the end of every day - and I mean 7:30pm - once I've put the kids to bed, and Im exhausted! Honestly, it was only that the tennis was on that I didn't roll my old pregnant body to bed right then and there!
I've looked forward to school going back for the kids sakes - for their individuality to be redeemed, for them to step outside of the familial hierarchy and just be themselves again.
But for me, as a Mum, I know the return to school means the return to more hours at work and more organisation needed on my part with dinners, lunches, washing, ironing, extra-curricular drop offs and so on..
However today I got to thinking, wouldn't it be nice..... just for a moment....to STOP.
To reflect on all that was; to be thankful for all the good moments; to let go of all the frustrations from bickering and tantrums and then to visualise what is to come. How I want it to look and feel. And, most importantly, ask myself what I need right now, for me. For no one else, but for me.
So I did this. I sat in my car, after the drop off (which went fairly OK, despite Miss 6 refusing to enter the classroom......) and I thought about where I was at.
I took a breath and felt blessed for the holidays, and then equally blessed for this next stage. I then decided before I rush into my office, I would get a coffee and just enjoy that moment in time. To reset.
And Mammas, I cannot tell you how beneficial that felt. Whether you have the flexibility right this moment to walk away from your desk, or out of the kitchen or wherever it is that you are... and just take a moment. For you. Because we are so many things to so many people - both big and little. And in there, sometimes (probably often) we lose touch with who we are and what we need, until we are bursting it seems!
Take that moment, right now. Reflect on what was, be thankful for the good, release the bad and visualise the new. Our families are often a reflection of our mental state, so if we are able to be connected and present to PEACE and GRATITUDE then that should flow effortlessly into our households. So even if it is with a glass of wine tonight, or 5 minutes alone at the clothes line or in the car.. take that time for YOUR sake.
A little glimmer of light and a moment for your sanity, your peace and your restoration - make sure you don't forget that my dears, in all the happenings around you.
Ill finish up my sharing my favourite Chinese Proverb. I've loved this since I was 11... and it still resonates more deeply with me than any other thing I have ever read.
If there is light in the soul,
there will be beauty in the person.
If there is beauty in the person,
there will be harmony in the house.
If there is harmony in the house,
there will be order in the nation.
If there is order in the nation,
there will be peace in the world.