Are you the kind of person who makes New Years Resolutions?
If yes, what are they?? Do they reflect little habits you want to change? Or perhaps they're big behaviour patterns or toxic relationships you want to walk away from?
If no, then perhaps you are the kind of person who rolls along throughout the year making changes if and when they see fit.
If however, you are the kind of person who does like to make resolutions.. then I have these simple GOLDEN RULES for you.
Set resolutions that are POSITIVE based.
For example, "I will stop eating/doing/seeing *insert bad thing here*" is not a positive based resolution.
Why? Because as humans, we actually all have an inbuilt REBEL in us. No matter who we are, how diligent we are, how strict - there are natural rebellious instincts in us that will come to play if we feel that our FREE WILL is taken away. The difference is that with some people it will happen in a day or two, and others in 3 months.
It isn't a fault or something that needs to be punished, it is a basic human reflex that will pop up eventually when restriction is placed upon us.
This is why, NEGATIVE based resolutions don't work as well as POSITIVE ones.
So, what is a POSITIVE RESOLUTION??
They need to:
Negative Resolution: "I won't eat any junk food"
Positive Resolution: "I will enjoy nourishing my body with whole foods at least 5 days per week by the end of _____. I will enjoy healthier processed food options on weekends and on special occasions"
Negative Resolution: "I will lose weight"
Positive Resolution: "I will lose 5kg by _____. To do this I will exercise by going to the gym on Mondays, Wednesdays and Thursdays and I will walk my dog 5 mornings per week before work. I will see a Nutritionist/Naturopath/Dietician by the end of January to develop a Meal Plan for Weight loss"
Negative Resolution: "I will stop drinking alcohol"
Positive Resolution: "I will enjoy time with friends and family without the need of alcohol. I will have mineral water with fresh lime/herbal tea (etc) instead.
If I choose to have alcohol for special occasions, I will have 1 glass or 1 serve only and not regret my choice"
Negative Resolution: "I will put myself first more often" (yes, keep reading)
Positive Resolution: "I will enjoy 15 minutes of alone time every day when I first wake/right before bed to journal, do yoga, read or listen to music and relax" or "I will go on two retreats this year to rejuvenate my body and soul, one in April and one in October" or "I will go to a concert, dinner or other activity with my friend/s once per month and my husband will take care of the children"
Are you seeing the pattern here?
Go, get yourself a piece of paper or a beautiful journal or a whiteboard.. whatever!
Start writing down some resolutions. If you write a lot, then narrow them down to the ones that really truly motivate you easily and will improve your quality of life.
Remember that taking away things or depriving yourself will ultimately lead to rebellion and isn't conducive of a more fulfilled life.
Be gentle and focus on things you want to bring into your life!
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Love, light and blessings for a glorious 2019...